My Dominant and I are two very different people. So much so it often causes conflicts. I wouldn’t necessarily say that my Dominant does things better than I, or I better than Him. I would simply say we do things differently as people. This of course often leads to some frustrations. For example, my Dominant drives differently. He is a kind driver, watchful of the situation, doesn’t road rage. Me on the other hand, I want to get where I am going as fast and safe as possible. I road rage, and when he drives I whine, and go:
Driving Miss Daisy!!!
Other areas are things like writing. We don’t write better than each other, just differently. I am more about needing a topic, or something to inspire me, my Dominant can just write off the top of his head. He is very talented, but this sometimes is also a conflict. Especially with our blog. We agreed to do this blog together and granted I post my entries to three different places, but when I do blog, its..a Topic, Deadline, Post. With my Dominant, he simply decides to write whenever he feels like it.
I never believe anyone is better than someone else. It is just different styles. You may load the dishwasher with your plates, in order from larger plates to little plates facing all one side. I may decide to put them, large, little, large little. They still get clean. Doesn’t mean one person is better, smarter, faster than someone else. Besides, I am certain things I do differently than my Dominant, likely drive him bonkers.
Most likely the fact I want to talk about EVERYTHING!!!
I try to write a lot about the bad stuff between us, as well as the good. No one’s relationship is perfect and most of what we share are great things between us, but no one would ever know from reading our blog, or talking to us, that we have a rocky relationship. The last conversation we had with regards to our relationship was addressing the lack of D/s in our relationship we have been having for a while.
Let alone we have needed to redo our contract, and have been working on that. Over time things change, people change, needs wants, kinks, limits they just change. We grow and evolve as people. So we have had to discuss this intensely. Our contract is officially finished, and we will be printing it and signing it here in a day or two.
I am Super Excited!!!
However, during this new contract building, it was very different. We had a long conversation over many things, and the most is the lack of consistency. Where my Dominant would create a rule or a protocol, and then I would follow it, but he would forget he had created it. One of them was when we are out dining, I am to stand beside the table until he instructs me where to sit. We do not go out to dine often, because I prefer cooking and home cooked meals, so when I did it, and he actually asked me what I was doing, I had to remind him.
It isn’t always him either. He will tell me to do something and I will forget because my memory is crap. So we opted to do something different. We started fresh. New Rules, New Protocols, things that we figure will work for us. We are going to do ONE rule every two-three weeks. Really dive into this rule, and then memorize it. Apply it. Then move on to the next down the list.
With my memory problem, I think this will work for us!!!
Which has been working for us lately? I have felt that much more submissive, and I can see a shift in my Dominant. A positive one. We even started watching a few more erotic shows. One of them tells us and teaches us about couples, spicing up the relationship, and we applied a few of their things they teach. It was phenomenal.
We were trying OM, which is like a meditation for orgasms. You experience orgasms, without actually have an actual orgasm. It is hard to explain but as we did it, my Dominant decided to shift our scene to actual sex. I squirted four times. I have a trouble squirting once, but the combination of the OM practice, the shift to actual intercourse, and my Dominant treating me like his dirty little slut, that I am…just…was mind-blowing.
It was the sexiest experience so far we have had.
Which is saying a lot, because there have been some other moments which have been high contenders. So I am grateful for the moments like these I get with my Dominant. I know we are going to have even more. We have decided to incorporate some pet play. We haven’t really done this yet, but we are excited. Aside from me being his submissive, his slave, and his little, I now get to be his pet.
I am so excited to explore our relationship, our dynamic, our love for each other, and yes his Dominance, and my submission.